How To Recover From Emotional Pain An Islamic Reminder

How To Recover From Emotional Pain An Islamic Reminder by Nouman Ali Khan

And this is Suratul Al-Qasas, one of my favorite Ayat (Verse) of this Surah, talking about the mother of Musa (AS). I picked this Ayat (Verse) because it's very close to my heart for many reasons and most important of which is, all human beings will suffer emotionally traumatizing experiences. We're going to be hurt because of loved ones, because of loss of loved ones, because of sickness, because of the pain that the loved ones will cause us like the hurtful things that our parents will say to us or we will say to our parents or our children will say to us or the wife and husband will say to each other or friends will say to each other, and we're going to go through traumatic experiences in life like job loss or home loss or even worse. How many people living really horrific situations that we can't imagine suffering. Children going through things that I can't imagine my children even close to suffering from. That's the reality that so many people face and this particular Ayat (Verse) is an Ayat of great hope because when people get scarred, people get emotionally damaged, then they feel like they're never going to be able to recover and move on with life again.

Musa's (AS) mother had the colossal task of taking her baby and putting her baby in the water. A mother has to put a child in the water. That is not, it's not even an imaginable thing a mother can do. She has two options, watch her child be slaughtered by soldiers before her eyes, or take this child and put him in a basket which hasn't been tested for waterproof navigation by any means, and just throw him in the river. And Allah says when she threw him into the water, when she threw the baby into the river by Allah's Inspiration cause she couldn't have gotten herself to do it emotionally, Allah Empowered her to be able to do that, He says Musa's (AS) mother's heart was emptied out, like the trauma of having to let go of her child and watch the child float away into a river and you can even access him anymore, and you don't even know what happened to him, if he drowned or not, if an alligator got to him, if those horrible soldiers got to him, if it flipped over, she knows nothing. The worst thought may be crossing her mind, Allah says her mind was emptied out, fully devolved to emotion. You know when somebody hears a traumatic news and you go like this and they don't blink, they don't talk, they're just quiet, they're emotionally paralyzed, that's the staged she reached. She almost gave up her secret, she almost came out running and saying that's my baby, that's my baby, but if she said that he would've been killed, now Allah says, have We not firmed her heart, had We not tied up her heart, had We not kept her heart together, Allah took her heart that was in flame and He calmed her heart down and brought her back to a normal state, and Allah is describing that He did that.

There are people that are emotionally traumatized and never recover. Why not? Because Allah hasn't tied up their heart, Allah hasn't done that. We as human beings don't have the ability to emotionally recover sometimes but we're learning in this Ayat (Verse) that Allah has the ability to let us heal and move on. You could say to yourselves "I don't have the emotional capability of forgiving you", but Allah says I'll tie your heart and I'll give you that ability. You can say in your heart  "I'm too damaged by what happened, there's no way I can move on with my life", But Imaan, Faith in Allah is enough for you to be able to move on with your life.

"Had We not tied up her heart so she could be from those who believe"

What mother can get over the trauma of putting her child in a water and not be able to see him anymore? How is she going to get over that? But Allah gave her the strength of heart and not only did she get over it but she was able to think clearly afterwards and send his sister after him. She wouldn't be able to think at all had Allah not intervened. So Allah will intervene into our emotional states, He will intervene, and she's not a Prophet, she's just a believer, which means this is an opportunity for you and me, whatever emotional trauma you're going through, know that Allah can intervene and give you a peace of mind, peace of heart, and he can give you tranquility again, whether it's anxiety, fear, whether it's grief, whether it's anger, whatever emotion, whatever thing that has happened that scarred you, that left you scarred, Allah can remove that scar entirely, and I pray that you are able to ask Allah for the genuine removal of the scar and Allah SWT gives you that firmness of heart so you can be of those who truly truly believe and can live a healthy spiritual life and healthy emotional life.

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